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[...] One of the most significant expressions of love, and especially of marriage with this alienated structure, is the idea of "team". In any number of articles on happy marriage, the ideal described is that of the smoothly functioning team. This description is not too different from the idea of a smoothly functioning employee; he should be "reasonably independent," co-operative, tolerant, and at the same time ambitious and aggressive. Thus, the marriage counselor tells us, the husband should "understand" his wife and be helpful. He should comment favorably on her new dress, and on a tasty dish. She, in turn, should understand when he comes home tired and disgruntled, she should listen attentively when he talks about his business troubles, should not be angry but understanding when he forgets her birthday. All this kind of relationship amounts to is the well-oiled relationship between two persons who remain strangers all their lives, who never arrive at a "central relationship", but who treat each other with courtesy and who attempt to make each other feel better..
In this concept of love and marriage, the main emphasis is on finding a refuge from otherwise unbearable sense of aloneness. In "love" one has found, at last, a heaven from aloneness. One forms an alliance of two against the world, and this egoism a deux is mistaken for love and intimacy.[...]